Thirty

There is a day that exists in the not so distant future. It has been fast approaching for some time now. This day and the moments leading up to it are filled with anxiety, excitement, fear, and celebration. It will be a regular day for most of you, but so much more for me. The date is February 9th and it is my 30th birthday. 

Thirty is something my friends fear. I've listened to them complain about getting closer to it with child-like disgust, as if it has cooties. I suppose I would too, if it weren't for my mortality being shoved in my face every second. Then again, I've never been the kind of person who places emphasis on such things. I'd like to think that non-cancer Tracy would float gracefully into thirty, looking forward to a new decade of lessons and wisdom. She wouldn't get caught up in the "I'm getting older, it's the end of the world" mind game. In fact, her life would be so busy with a career and children that she wouldn't even have time to ponder something as insignificant as age. But non-cancer Tracy is fictional and it's cancer Tracy that is turning thirty in twenty-two days. 

The truth is, thirty is a little frightening for me too. But not because I'm worried about the early signs of aging or that I'm afraid of getting old. The numbers three and zero together don't threaten me because I'm entering another decade; they threaten me because it's a decade that, statistically, I shouldn't be entering. Thirty, for me, means wondering how many years are left. Thirty is one year away from the five year mark - the statistical mark that most stage IV women never make it to, and even fewer make it past. Thirty represents a parallel of unyielding happiness and overwhelming fear. 

And so, cancer Tracy will handle this birthday quite differently, because she's had plenty of time to listen to the little voice in the back of her head. The one that's wondered for three and a half years if she'd even make it this far. Cancer sucks in so many ways that I could never use enough horrible words to express it, but cancer is the reason this birthday is so meaningful. Because of cancer, thirty is something I will embrace with open arms. I will clutch it in the deepest trenches of my being. I will savor every sweet moment that thirty has to offer. It isn't a birthday, it's a victory - like reaching the top of a mountain that everyone said you couldn't climb. Thirty is my golden globe and I will display it as such. 

Thirty is also a beginning, a new era if you will. My thirties will be the decade of my dreams coming true and an extension of the things I've already achieved. I decided early on that thirty was a number I had to get out of my head if I planned on getting to forty. And I do plan on getting to forty. Because I believe that if life can change so suddenly and dramatically for the worse, it can also do the same for the better. Hell, I've already defied statistics. Here's to many more years of better.

Happy Birthday to me!

The Pet Effect

I’ve always been an animal person. At age five I won an art contest for my drawing titled “Dancing Kitty” and even had my name in the newspaper. At age seven I rescued my first cat, a grey and black tabby huddled next to marble steps near Patterson Park.  My mother told me not to touch it, but I scooped him up anyway, took him home and named him Casey. We had lots of cats growing up, all rescued from the streets, all wonderful companions.  In fact, I can’t remember a time in my life when I haven’t been surrounded by animals. And that got me thinking about how much of an influence pets have had in my life and how much I’ve learned from them along the way.

As I travel back in time, every memory whether good or bad is accompanied by an animal. When I was 14 my parents allowed me to have a puppy. Her name was Shelby and she was a beautiful husky mix. We had her for about a month before I was forced to give her away to a family who lived in the county after she chewed my father’s glasses for the third time. Shelby taught me responsibility and how to do the right thing no matter how much it hurts. At age 16, after a particularly ugly argument with my father, I stormed out of our house with my clothes in a trash bag. I stayed at my brother’s house that night. I was crying, distraught and afraid. His two cats, Jonson and Henry, curled up next to me on the floor and comforted me throughout the evening. They showed me what friendship is really all about. After I had moved out officially at 18 and had my own place, I adopted two kittens from my mother. She had neglected to spay and neuter some of her rescues and had 2 litters to find homes for. Rodney and Rudy came home with me, and are still part of my family 12 years later. They’ve warmed up my legs with a brush of their fur on cold mornings, purred on my lap when my heart was broken, brought countless smiles to my face with their frantic meows at dinner time and have shown me the meaning of unconditional love.

While working at Johns Hopkins I started collecting money in an attempt to save the reptile exhibit at the Baltimore Zoo. I raised $60, chump change compared to what I raise now, but I was so proud.  This was my first attempt at fundraising and I learned quickly how difficult it is to get others to care as much as I do. When a maintenance man at Hopkins told me about a kitten he had found outside that looked poisoned, I used my lunch break to take the kitten to Eastern Animal Hospital. They informed me that he was too far gone and that it would be best to euthanize him. They didn’t charge me and thanked me for bringing him in. I thought of Shelby and how difficult it was to give her to that family and reminded myself that I had just saved this kitten from unnecessary suffering. Though I only knew him for about an hour, he taught me compassion and strength. A few months later, while watching television in my apartment, I heard a faint “meow” coming from the snow covered ground outside. I opened the door and saw a tiny calico cat taking refuge under a car. I filled a bowl with cat food, stepped outside in my PJ’s and coaxed her closer. She let me lift her up and spent the night sleeping on my pillow. The next day I took her to my parent’s house and after hours of name searching, they settled on Reese. She was the last pet that my father would have and brought him great comfort and happiness before he passed. She still enriches my mother’s life today.

Layla entered my life at a critical time. My father had just passed and my husband was in Kuwait. Loneliness was looming until I found Layla. I had no idea that a rambunctious pit mix puppy could change my life so drastically. She became my best friend. From her I have learned patience, resilience and how to live life fully each day. Then came Evey – another pit bull destined for life in a shelter. We brought her home as a friend for Layla, but got the sweetest, friendliest, most loyal companion on the planet. Evey has taught me that taking risks are worth it. A few months later and about a week into my job at a local animal shelter, six puppies arrived without their mother. They were two weeks old and needed to be bottle fed or they would be euthanized. Unable to let that happen and at the risk of becoming divorced, I took them home. My husband graciously helped me care for the puppies until they were old enough to be adopted. After six weeks, I returned five of them to the shelter to find their forever homes. We kept number six and named her Wolverine. She has cheated death twice, sleeps at the foot of our bed every night and has taught me that anything is possible. When I asked for an orange cat two years ago I thought my husband would kill me, but he gave in and we welcomed Ripken into our home. He’s broken nearly everything made of glass that he’s come into contact with and tortures the dogs on a regular basis, but he’s always sad to see us leave the house, keeps my spot on the couch warm and reminds me to always have fun.

Lots of people see pets as a nuisance and a responsibility that they’d rather do without, but I say it’s worth every second of aggravation. My pets have gotten me through some of the toughest times of my life. They’ve been there through tears, breakdowns, smiles and laughter and I’ve learned more life lessons from them than most of the people I’ve encountered. I believe that they love me just as much as I love them. And, I’d like to think that when my dogs are licking me with that twinkle in their eyes they are really saying “Thanks mom for saving my life!” In fact, I know they “know”. Because whether you’re human or animal, you feel the same energy when someone loves you and treats you humanely. And we all deserve to feel that at least once in our lives.

If you haven’t experienced the pet effect in your life yet, perhaps it’s time to do just that! Shelters are always fuller than capacity with thousands of wonderful, loving animals who are just hoping for a permanent place to call home. And if you can’t adopt a pet right now, consider volunteering once a month (or more often) at a shelter or rescue close to where you live. Your volunteer time will enrich the lives of the shelter animals as well as your own.

                                                           Evey, Layla, and Wolvie

                                                                      Rodney

                                                                       Tuesday

                                                                        Rudy

                                                                       Ripken

Happily Ever After

Today is my anniversary. My husband and I have been married for five years. I was twenty-four at the time; my husband was twenty-five. We were young in so many ways and fiercely grown-up in others. We had a plan, or at least I did. We would go active duty, travel the country, finish school, have children and settle into our dream home here in Baltimore. And as I reminisce it’s hard for me not to think about that plan and how drastically different our lives have become.

I never could have imagined on that crisp fall day all that life had in store for us. I didn’t see my love for animals turning into a career or that we would raise so much money for animals in our community. I didn’t see all the wonderful vacations we would take or the joy of purchasing our first home together. I didn’t see Romeo’s career goals shifting from the fire department and politics to teaching and entrepreneurship. And I certainly didn’t know that just two years later our relationship would be put to the test when I was diagnosed with stage IV breast cancer.

Many young marriages would have crumbled under the pressure but ours has become even stronger. For some unknown reason we seem to have found what so many search for their entire lives: real, pure, honest-to-goodness love. It’s a phenomenon we are thankful for each and every day. We often joke that most couples probably don’t say “I love you” nearly as often as we do and that when our friends or co-workers are complaining about their significant other we can’t join in because there’s just nothing to gripe about. And while most people are trying to get away from their spouse, we look for more ways to spend time together.

I say all of this not to brag, but to express how truly lucky I am. I have a husband who loves me and stands by my side despite my being bald, sick, and moody and our lives being dominated by doctor’s appointments. He rides the emotional roller coaster with me and never complains. He goes above and beyond to ensure my happiness and I am incredibly blessed to have him as my husband.

Yes, our life together has been much different than expected. And today’s anniversary brings to mind another that is quickly approaching. In just a few days I will mark three years since being diagnosed. It’s almost impossible not to reflect on that as well and how different I’ve become as a person. Shortly after that date in October, I began to mourn the loss that so many women with breast cancer understand: the loss of my former, innocent self. So I made it my mission to become the “old me” again. And, like so many other women I’ve searched inside myself everyday for some trace of the woman I used to be.

Recently, I decided to discontinue the search. I used to feel that a certain power existed in telling myself and others that cancer hasn’t changed “who I am”, but I think there is greater power in admitting that it has. There is a sort of profoundly bizarre beauty in the cancer perspective, a beauty that can only exist in the darkest of places. After dealing with something so magnificently horrible it’s almost impossible to look at the world and your circumstances in the same way as before. And instead of seeing that as a bad thing, I’ve learned to relish the fact that I’ve reached a level of consciousness, happiness, love and humbling appreciation that most people only dream of. I am not the same woman that I was before cancer, nor will I ever be that woman again – and that’s perfectly okay.

The new me is extremely grateful for everything that I have and for the person I’ve become. And for the fact that I can celebrate five years of marriage with the man of my dreams with a refined bliss that the old me never could have imagined.

~Romeo, I love you with all of my heart and soul.

9/28/05

October 2005

newly moved in 2006

7/7/2007

Cancun 2008

Bahamas 2009

O's game 2010

Paint The Town Pink

It’s that time again. October is rolling around. That means pumpkins, children dressed up for Halloween and the cool crisp air of autumn afternoons. These are all things I look forward to every year. But for me, as a breast cancer patient, October is tainted with a million pink reminders of my disease. It has already begun. Store shelves are filled with items bearing the infamous pink ribbon, promising to donate a portion of the proceeds from the sale to either Susan G. Komen or some unknown cancer foundation. To the average person this seems wonderful, but to a large number of young breast cancer patients like me, this is highly depressing and offensive.

There are a few reasons that I despise the pink ribbon and its message, the first being that it’s a constant, in-your-face reminder of the most horrible thing that has ever happened in my life. Imagine if every year for an entire month, domestic violence or rape victims were bombarded with the face of their attacker. It may seem like a harsh comparison, but that’s just how it feels to be a breast cancer patient in October. Another reason I am offended by the pink ribbon is that I disagree with what it represents. The awareness campaign began in 1985 and was started by AstraZeneca, a drug company which manufactures the breast cancer drugs Arimidex and Tamoxifen. It made sense back then. In 1985 we needed awareness. It’s now 2010 and unless you live in a hobbit hole I’m pretty sure you’re well aware of breast cancer. What we need today is a real, non-toxic, tangible treatment and cure. And possibly my biggest reason for being against the pink ribbon is the sheer exploitation of my illness. Companies slap the pink ribbon on their product as a way to boost sales by playing on people’s emotions and fears. The percentage of the sale that actually goes to cancer organizations is tiny at best.

But, while there are many organizations that aren’t directly helping cancer patients, there are also several that are. My absolute favorite is The Pink Daisy Project. Founded by Debbie Cantwell who is a breast cancer survivor and fellow member of the YSC, The Pink Daisy Project has been able to help countless women all over the country with everyday necessities like housecleaning, groceries and prescription costs and was a recent recipient of a Pepsi Refresh grant. And when Debbie heard about a young woman who was about to be homeless just 2 days after receiving chemotherapy, she decided to help her even though she had no donation money left. With the help of the YSC sisterhood, Debbie’s Pink Daisy Project was not only able to keep this woman from being evicted, but also received enough donations to continue to help other women in need. They even sent me free hats when I started to lose my hair. If you really want to help a woman with breast cancer, leave the pink soup can on the shelf and consider donating directly to this great organization.

And speaking of the YSC, it wouldn’t hurt to donate to them as well. The Young Survival Coalition is an organization dedicated entirely to young women (under 40) with breast cancer. The YSC was the very first resource I found as a newly diagnosed patient and it has been an invaluable tool in guiding me through this journey. I have conversed with countless women through the YSC forum, all of whom I consider to be friends, though we’ve never met. We share something that only women with breast cancer can understand and I wouldn’t be the informed and well adjusted person that I am today without their support. There is also a great organization that I just learned about today called Movable Feast, who provides free meals to people living with AIDS and other life-challenging conditions, such as cancer. It may sound simple, but fulfilling a basic need by providing a meal can be the difference between a good day and a bad day for someone dealing with cancer.

These are just an example of some of the wonderful groups that are directly helping women with breast cancer in real time. When you donate to them, you know exactly where your money is going and you’re able to see real results. As a young breast cancer patient on the front lines of this disease, I’d much rather see people supporting these organizations rather than buying a pink water pitcher. Please think before you pink!

For The Love Of Baseball

Fall is upon us. For most families that means the end of summer and the beginning of the school year. But in our house, September represents the last month of baseball and my husband starts to get a little sad inside. I can’t tell you how many times he’s reminded me of just how few games are left for the season. As usual, he’s already designed and completed his “costume” for fan appreciation weekend with hopes to win a season ticket plan for the third year in a row. And if you know my husband, you know it’s practically in the bag.

He certainly deserves it. If you’ve ever attended a game with us, then you’d have to agree he’s the Orioles’ biggest fan. If you haven’t, then you’re missing out. It is truly a unique experience. Even if you’re not a fan, you will be after spending nine innings watching him yell, cheer, start the wave and spell O-R-I-O-L-E-S in an attempt to get the crowd pumped up. In fact, it’s hard to not let his energy and love for the game seep into you. And that’s just what it does. I love watching a person who sat through most of the game glued to their seat suddenly jump up and start joining in the fun. Or seeing the look of appreciation on a kid’s face as Romeo shows them the best way to catch homeruns at batting practice.

Sure, the Orioles haven’t been playing great for a long, long time, but the words he scribed on his favorite O’s hat says it all – “Win or Lose, Die Hard”. Isn’t that what a true fan is supposed to be? Now that we’ve got Buck and the O’s are improving, I’m sure we’ll see more fair weather fans popping up next year. Regardless, we’ll be there cheering on and supporting our home team, because that’s what we do.

You see, for us baseball season is never really over. So, while everyone else’s mind is shifting to cold weather and football, we’ll be spending the month at Camden Yards, cheering on the O’s and planning out next year’s schedule. We’ll talk about going to Florida for spring training and maybe this time we’ll actually book the trip and go. We’ll start to plan our fundraising games for 2011 and be filled with anticipation for Fan Fest and Opening Day. And while Baltimore’s residents are decked out in purple Raven’s gear, we’ll still be rocking our orange and black O’s shirts, hats and jackets. Call us crazy. Call us die-hards. But please call us what we truly are, fans.

Adventures in Home Canning

A few months ago I saw an article in my Body and Soul magazine about home canning and was intrigued. If you’re like me, canning probably brings to mind thoughts of a simpler time. I can recall shelves of chow chow and pickles lining my grandmother’s basement walls. It may seem like an outdated practice, but there are several reasons why canning your own fresh produce makes sense in today’s world. My favorite reason is that you get to preserve fresh fruits and vegetables at their peak and are able to enjoy them all year long. Another plus is the money you’ll save since you won’t have to buy the canned or frozen version when you want to use them in a recipe (especially if you grow your own produce). Other perks include the fact that canned produce makes beautiful and meaningful gifts for birthdays and holidays and you get to control the amount of salt/sugar that goes into each item, which is usually much less than you’ll find in grocery store versions. Since the article gave simple instructions and a few recipes to get started, I decided to give it a try.

During our regular trip to the farmer’s market I picked up some delicious peaches and splurged on a case of beautiful tomatoes. I had already purchased a home canning starter kit, a canning recipe book and a case of jars. The next day, with my mom’s help, the canning adventure began. We started by cleaning the jars and lids and preparing them by placing them in a large stockpot of slightly boiling water. We also prepared another stock pot of simmering water to process the newly packed jars. While the jars and lids simmered we prepped the tomatoes. This was probably the most time consuming part of the whole operation. We first had to blanch the tomatoes, then peel and cut them. Now it was time to pack the jars. This part can get tricky. You have to be extra careful when packing to follow the recipe instructions. Getting all the air bubbles out of the jars and leaving enough headspace is critical to ensure the quality of the food. Once the jars were packed correctly and the lids were on, we carefully placed them in the stock pot of simmering water to process for the allotted amount of time. After about 40 minutes of processing, we removed the jars and sat them on a dish towel on the table to cool for 24 hours.

It may sound simple, but canning tomatoes is a long, slow process that takes lots of preparing and patience. Since we were amateurs we used stock pots instead of an actual canning pot. I didn’t think there was much of a difference at first but now I know better. The jars I used were quart sized and my stockpots were barely tall enough to hold the amount of water needed to cover the tops of them for processing. We had a few episodes of the water boiling over and dousing the stove’s flame. Another issue was that my pot only held about 4 jars at a time, so we could only work in batches of four, slowing the process down even more. We also ended up using regular tongs and oven mitts to remove the jars from the boiling water. Luckily none were dropped, but we came awful close. Without my mother’s help, the tomato canning would have been a disaster. Even with the proper equipment, it’s at least a two person job. My brother ended up stopping by in the afternoon and his assistance really helped to finish things out. All in all it took us about seven hours to complete the canning process. It was exhausting and a learning experience, but totally worth it in the end.

Since canning the tomatoes took all day, we didn’t even get to the peaches. I ended up making peach jam the following day and canning it by myself, which was much easier considering I had less peaches and smaller jars. That process took me about three hours total. I’ve since discovered a canning utensil kit that contains special jar gripping tongs, a magnetic tool to remove the jar lids, a transparent funnel and a tool that doubles as a bubble remover and headspace measurer and I can tell you it was well worth the $7 it cost. After our first adventure a few weeks ago I’ve become a pro. My mother and I canned strawberry and blueberry jam this past Monday as well as peach halves in light syrup and it went much more smoothly this time around. As with anything, the more you practice, the easier it gets. The next item on my canning list is green beans; however they require a special pressure processer that I have yet to purchase. I’m leaning towards one I found online that can be used as a pressure or boiling processer.

If you’re considering canning I highly recommend it, but I do have a few tips to ease you into the process:

~ Always follow a trusted recipe. Home canning requires processing foods a certain way to eliminate any bacteria, etc. If you don’t follow a trusted recipe, your food could go bad and your family could get seriously ill! I found a great canning recipe book at Wal-Mart for $6 that was full of recipes for fruit, vegetables, jams, pickled foods and meats (yes, you CAN can meats! Who knew?). It also had great instructions for prepping the jars, choosing produce, storage guidelines and trouble shooting. For me, having this book before you get started is a must.

~ Read all instructions prior to beginning and have all of your items out and ready to go. You can’t decide to can strawberry jelly with the strawberries in your fridge. You have to start with the amount of fruit or vegetable that the recipe calls for and purchase the correct size and amount of jars and lids. It wouldn’t be fun to get started only to discover that you have the wrong size jars or not enough fruit. AND – once you begin the process, you cannot stop or the end product will be ruined. You must be fully prepared when you begin.

~ Follow all instructions carefully. The idea is to create the best product possible. The recipes were created with the right amount of ingredients to preserve the freshness and taste of your produce. If you alter the amount of sugar or salt that a recipe calls for, the end result could be spoiled. There are sugar-free and sugar-less recipes if you’d like to lessen your intake, also included in the book I purchased.

~ I think stockpots are fine to use the first time around. They work well, especially with smaller jars. If you’re like me and you discover that you really love canning and plan on doing it often, I’d recommend splurging on the professional canner. It’s made especially for this purpose, and is taller and wider to accommodate the jars.

~ Enlist the help of family and friends. Canning was a great way to spend time with my mom and brother and we got to create something together. It also really helps, especially if you’re canning tomatoes, to have an extra hand or two. It’s a great way to save money too! Go in together on the fruits/vegetables and supplies and then split the finished product.

~ Start early. We began with the tomatoes around 10am and didn’t finish until around 5pm. Plan accordingly so that you have plenty of time to devote to the process.

~ Remember to have fun! I truly enjoyed the whole experience, even if it was a bit tedious at times, and I kept reminding myself of the awesome items I would have in the end.

In the end, I was surprised to discover just how much I enjoyed the canning process. There’s something intensely gratifying about making something yourself. The bold colors of the tomatoes and peach jam look so pleasing in my cabinet and it feels great to know exactly what’s in them. I can’t wait to enjoy the taste of summer this fall and winter. And learning something new, that I actually enjoy, sure does feel great!

Little Miracles

I realize I haven’t posted in a while. The reason I will give is that we started the egg retrieval process and immediately after I began a new chemo regimen. Needless to say, with all the side effects, I’ve been feeling less than well. On top of having back pain and generally feeling like a truck ran me over, I’ve become anemic and thus, walking even a few feet makes my heart race and I feel as if I’m going to pass out. And so that’s given me an easy out when it comes to doing just about anything these days. Unfortunately, I don’t want the out. The truth is I haven’t posted because I’ve let myself get too comfortable with being “sick” and “stuck” and “unable”. Yes, it even happens to positive people. Thankfully, I have the most upbeat husband in the world and he’s helped me to slowly put myself back on track. Here’s my take on how I got myself into this “black hole” and how I’m gradually crawling out of it by rejoicing in the little miracles of every day.



How it got this way:


It all started in December when I fractured a bone in my back. At first, it wasn’t so bad. I knew it would take time for my back to heal and it was easier to accept since it was ten degrees outside. Lounging on the couch all day was a welcome change to digging myself out of the blizzard. Then my fracture healed but I still felt bad, a result of the cancer in my bones progressing and the meds I was on failing to do their job. It’s about this time that we were really in the thick of the surrogacy issue, and so against doctor’s orders, I put off starting a new treatment until we had gotten through the retrieval process. This took about two weeks. I in no way regret our decision and am happy to report that we have three embryos frozen and waiting.


Immediately after the egg retrieval I began the new chemo protocol. It’s been a bit rough since it’s a harsher treatment and I now go to the doctor more frequently than before. Over the course of these past six months I’ve also been nauseous several times due to medications and thus have lost a considerable amount of weight, I’ve become anemic, I’ve slacked on eating well in lieu of just eating to gain weight, I’ve slacked on taking my vitamins and stopped exercising and going to acupuncture. I’ve gradually let go of everything that was supporting my well being. I’ve also allowed myself to feel sorry for myself a bit, and that may have been my biggest mistake.


So now here we are in June. I’m used to being a very active person, especially during the summer. It’s my favorite time of year. It’s a time filled with festivals, farmer’s markets and warm weather that’s perfect for the beach, the park, and vacations. I’ve looked forward to all of these things, and since I’m still physically unable to enjoy most of them, I let anger and sadness seep into my mind. My husband would ask what I would like to do today and my response would be “I want to do a lot of things, but I can’t”. Then I would get upset and cry. A much needed pep talk would ensue and I’d pull myself together for a bit. The problem was that unless I started living every day with a more positive outlook, I’d be stuck in this “down” place forever.


How I’m getting back on track: (and how you can too)


Fortunately, an article in O magazine helped me to realize that. It was about a woman who was diagnosed with stage IV cancer back in 1988. She was told she had a few months to live. Twenty-two years later and she’s still here to tell her story. The whole article is moving but I was deeply inspired by one particular quote from her. She said whenever she feels that she’s at the end of her rope she asks herself a question, “where are you right now?” The point of the question being that, where you are right now in this moment is usually not so bad of a place. And if we just ask ourselves this question and answer honestly, we’ll realize that if we just hold on right now, we’ll get through to the next moment, and the next, and so on.


I decided to start asking myself this question every day. I’ve begun to recognize and be thankful for the small miracles in my day to day living. Sleeping through the night without any back pain, walking up the steps without feeling exhausted, getting through each treatment with minimal side effects, eating without feeling nauseous. I’ve also started again to focus on what I can do as opposed to what I can’t. I may not be able to go for a walk on this beautiful sunny day, but I can sit on the deck for a while with the dogs and enjoy the breeze. I can’t walk around the mall, but I can make it to the theater and enjoy a movie with my husband. I can’t run the women’s 5K this year or even walk it, but I can lift small weights while sitting on the couch. I may not weigh what I want or need to, but I can count calories and do my best to eat healthy, nourishing foods. I may think that chemo is the devil in an IV bag, but I can also believe that it’s doing its job to get my cancer under control. I’m also reminded of the things I’ve never stopped being thankful for, like my incredible husband, our awesome family and friends, the animals we’ve saved that continue to enrich our lives and those three miracle embryos that we created.


Everyone gets down every now and then. We all fall into bad habits, whether they are physical, emotional or spiritual. I’m proof that even the most positive people have bad days, weeks, months, etc. But if we find just one small thing to rejoice in each day, we can put ourselves on the road to recovery. So the next time you’re feeling down and out ask yourself where you are right now and seek out the little miracles in your life.